This is how my life was before (which is most of my life)...
Taking care of everyone else, not standing up for myself, worried about what other people were thinking, afraid I was letting someone down, beating myself up when I made mistakes.
I did not feel confident. Even though I was a social person I was super shy and more in the shadows in bigger group settings. I thought I was not good enough and at times that there was something wrong with me and something did not feel quite right.
I also had a hard time saying no, so was allowing myself to spread too thin. I took on a lot of responsibilities that were not necessary nor expected (including a care-giving role for my parents when health issues arose). This pretty much all through my early 30. Now, the interesting thing that it did not really show, so the people around me did not necessarily notice as I was perfectly functioning and nice most of the time. Additionally, I thought my life was OK... I had no idea how much better it could become.
Then I my husband and 5-year-old daughter moved from Switzerland to Canada due to his new short-term job opportunity there. In (freezing cold) Canada I was diagnosed out of the blue with Thyroid Cancer, and it hit me like a truck as I was healthy (so I and everyone else thought, including the doctor in Switzerland). I was mad, as I felt it was so unfair due to me helping everyone else, being a good person, etc. I was scared and afraid I wasn’t able to see my daughter grow up.
Now, I had an important and hard (for me) choice to make (while keeping most people in the unknown...part of my problem BTW):
Saying No to others so I could say YES to myself. Take care of myself first, so I could spend more time with my family and loved ones, and also to be of better service to others without compromising my own health. It started with the traditional cancer treatment protocol. Surgery to eliminate the thyroid gland, along with the 7 cm tumor, and one (thank goodness) RAI treatment, before moving again to the USA. With the health knowledge I have acquired through the last 10+ years , I would choose a different treatment plan.
Additionally, I started asking for support along the way (another hard thing for me to do); followed by educating myself on how to live a healthy, happy life according to my needs and desires AND investing in several high-end training and coaches to support me and guiding me along the way.
All of this led me to really understand that cancer was a wake-up call (a blessing in disguise). Nothing happened by accident; the cancer, nor the type of cancer, nor when and where it happened. I became determined, my health and well-being became a MUST, a non-negotiable aspect of my life. So, I did invest in myself, I educated myself, I dug deeper into the root causes (physically and emotionally), I stepped outside of my comfort zone over and over and still do every day because now it is exciting to do so.
I have been cancer free for over 10 years, I am taking responsibility for my own life and well-being; I have greater awareness about how things are connected, my intuition (which never fails), the deeper emotional root causes and empowered messages, and how to utilize my negative feelings as allies.
I have learned what my body needs, what I need my life, my relationships and career to look like to be really happy; what my lifestyle and behaviors needed to be to nourish myself in all areas (health, emotionally, career, relationships, spiritually) to feel confident, joyful, healthy, at ease and fulfilled.
I now honor my mistakes and learn from them, I allow myself to be vulnerable and am able have those healthy boundaries so I don’t feel pulled in different directions and drain myself….and I 'm so very grateful I can teach my clients how to do the same.
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